Save relationship or leave?
In every relationship there are phases when everything is going well and phases when it is not going so well. But what do you do when the bad phases predominate or just don't want to stop? When you have the feeling that it just doesn't want to get better? Is the relationship worth saving or is it better to leave?
Arguing in a relationship is completely normal
Discussions and arguments are something that happens to everyone relationship heard. Because it is completely normal that there is not an equality of opinion in all areas. But if these arguments get out of hand, you should consider whether you are ready to save the relationship or rather split up. It is important to consider how much you care about a relationship and whether you have the feeling that the partnership could be something for the future.
Save love? - Make the right decision
In order to be clear about whether you want to save the relationship, it helps to ask yourself the following questions:
- How do you feel about the idea of staying in a relationship with your partner for years and growing old together? Does this trigger a positive feeling in you, or do you think in the back of your mind that something better might still come?
- Do you and your partner still have common interests, goals, and plans for the relationship?
- Do you tell your partner about your day, your fears, worries, but also good experiences? Do you feel the need to tell him things first?
- Is your partner there for you when you feel bad?
- Do you feel that you are still very important to your partner?
- Are you still happy to see your partner and do you miss them when you don't see them? Or is it just a habit and you are simply afraid of being alone?
- Do you still have fun together and do a lot of things together?
- Is it worth the effort to you, to work on your mistakes and to make compromises from time to time? To put your needs on the back burner?
Not sure whether your partner is really your great love? Then ...
Interpret your answers - save relationship or leave?
- You can answer most of the questions aimed at whether or not you should save your relationship for yourself answer positively, it is definitely worth working on the relationship and the relationship too save. Make yourself aware of what you value in your partner and what they value in the case of one separation would miss. Often it is just necessary to show the partner that he is important to you and that you are willing to make compromises. Small gestures are usually sufficient for this.
- However, if it is the other way around and most of the questions are answered in the negative, think about how you can end it and draw a line. Often, especially after a long relationship, it is the habit that prevents you from breaking up. Your partner has become important to you as a person and friend, and you are afraid to give up this familiarity. But take the step, even if it will certainly be difficult at the beginning and notice how good it is for you to stop arguing and to have time for yourself.
