How do I know that I am a lesbian?

How you can tell that you are into women

• It may very well be possible that you are currently in a partnership with a man. You like the man, yours relationship is harmonious, but after all the initial feelings of falling in love, the pink-red glasses have dissolved and you are no longer as happy as you once were. You notice more and more that z. B. the sexual act does not give you pleasure or You not met. Another thing you can tell that you may be a lesbian is that you have a man's body. No longer perceive your partner as appealing and attractive - you do not associate lustful feelings with a man.

• But your situation could also be very different. You may never have engaged in a man physically or emotionally. You don't feel the need to commit to a man. The thought of touching does not trigger pleasure in you, but rather a feeling of discomfort. Unlike men, however, you are very attracted to women - you have maybe no experience yet, but one or the other fantasy with a woman lived through. So what you can tell here that you are more likely to be a lesbian is that you have no or no interest in men. just show hardly any interest and even more so in women.

• Perhaps your instincts are not necessarily expressed in everyday life - you have a partner and are actually happy with the bond with them. But when you are partying with your girlfriends, you feel as comfortable as you would not in the presence of your partner or other men. Another thing you can tell that you are supposedly a lesbian is when you are in such a boisterous atmosphere like to exchange kisses with your girlfriends, seek physical contact and usually take the initiative from you goes out.

If you are a lesbian and want to bond with a woman

• You now realize that you are a lesbian. It is marvelous that you have now admitted this to yourself. have figured out. Make friends with the idea of ​​dating women and maybe eventually bonding with a woman. You are now your own new project to work on. It is important that you do not feel ashamed of your feelings - homosexuality is widespread and is not limited to humanity.

• Do not hide under any circumstances, it will not help anyone. When you feel ready, share it with your closest friends / family members. It may well be that they are a little surprised or even shocked at the beginning, but give them time - people who Really love you and have a close connection with you, like you for who you are - whether you are lesbian or straight are. Do not try to fool those around you - you would most likely lead a double life that can cost you an incredible amount of energy. What you can tell that you are ready to "come out" is the need to e.g. B. to be seen in public with another woman.


Lesbian: is she into me? - Read signs

So you've recently discovered, or admitted to yourself, that you ...

• It is not always easy to come across lesbian women straight away. To get to know women more easily, you could find out whether there are e.g. B. There are gay or bisexual clubs in your city. There are a few on the internet too Dating-Portals where you can get to know interesting women and meet them. But give yourself time too and don't try to commit yourself to a woman immediately. How you can really tell that you are attracted to women is when you are in the presence of a woman, for example. B. Have butterflies in your stomach and feel even more needs for that woman.

Or maybe you don't feel like a typical woman. B. rather like a man. Again, this can be a sign that you are a lesbian. Don't suppress your needs; give them a chance.