Why women always have to have the last word

"Always the last word" - the attempt of women to be heard

• It cannot be denied: men are usually stronger than women - at least physically. For many centuries, social norms forced women to be "subject" to men. Society was guided by the will of the man - they had the say - the women had the frustration and the last word.
• Such fundamental power constellations leave deep marks. After all, women are raised by women. According to the motto "constant dripping wears away the stone", these defensive language strategies were passed on from one generation of women to the next.
• In the meantime, the balance of power in the struggle between the sexes has largely evened out in this country: As a rule, women no longer have to express their opinion through "the last word". You now have other means of making yourself heard and you are free to choose. The struggle for equality has borne fruit. In the meantime, the fear of being unbuttered is no longer just specific to women, but in individual cases men also have frustration and the last word.
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Having an open ear means no longer having to fight

• The impulse to still have to "put something on it" can be terribly annoying for everyone involved. This phenomenon only occurs when there is a lack of acceptance and mutual understanding.
• Everyone wants to be heard and seen - with all their needs and desires. The problem is that men and women - humans at all - don't really listen to each other. This is not unusual: Very few people really listen to what they are talking to when they are talking to one another. Everyone is in their "film" and so does not even notice the feelings and reactions of the other. This quickly creates the feeling of not being accepted and being ignored. And before you've registered it properly, the argument and argument has escalated and everyone is trying to have the last word.


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• When the arguers realize that the same mechanism is always running and leading to Escalation leads you have a good alternative to end the fight by using a "stop word" arrange.
• When this word is mentioned, both of them stand back and first talk about how they are feeling. Every man for himself. Not about the other.
• Such mechanisms are like hands that are interlocked with one another - if one of them changes his behavior and no longer plays along, the whole structure no longer works in the usual way. Break your usual behavior - if you react completely differently than usual, the entire constellation will change.
• This is unusual at the beginning, but it offers the chance to develop understanding for one another by expressing the feelings. This creates closeness and always a new beginning.