Why am I always unlucky?
Perhaps you are also a master at "dealing with" negative thoughts and negative self-attributions. So if you ask yourself, for example, why you are always unlucky, then there is already a negative assumption in that.
Negative thoughts are often an indication of your own self-assessment or the assessment of your own life situation, but usually not an expression of an established fact.
One can also be mentally lucky
- For example, if you are wondering why you are always unlucky, then you should also ask yourself whether you are really always unlucky - that is, in any situation, in any place, at any time. Has there never been a situation in your life in which you were not unlucky?
- By asking such a question, which questions the generalized word "always", you can reduce your negative assumptions a little.
- There are also negative thoughts in other forms and with other generalizing terms. You may be wondering why you always do everything wrong or never do anything right, why you are not respected by anyone, and why you will never be happy in life.
- You can question these negative thoughts by breaking down the generalizations they contain. So you might be wondering whether you are really always doing everything wrong - in any situation, any time, any place. So you've never managed to get anything right? You are sure to come up with situations that prove otherwise, no matter how mundane they seem to you. Perhaps you've already cooked a meal properly, bought the right ticket or watered the flowers properly.
- When you have resolved the generalizations, you can also try reinterpreting your self-descriptions.
When you feel like you're treading on the spot in life and not really ...
Bad luck doesn't have to be bad luck
- Not everything can be reinterpreted positively, but it can be helpful if you consider whether a negative thought cannot also contain a positive one.
- For example, if you tell yourself that you are always doing things way too slowly, you might be wondering what the point is. Perhaps you are particularly thorough and don't want to make a mistake?
- If something has gone wrong and you therefore think that you are always unlucky anyway, then just think about what could be good about the situation that should have been different. Perhaps the fact that something went wrong opens up completely new possibilities? Perhaps you don't get a job that you applied for, but that gives you the opportunity to apply for a much more interesting one?
Negative thoughts can be very distressing. In most cases, if you scrutinize them carefully, you will find that the generalizations and generalizations involved paint the wrong picture.
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