She loves me, but I don't
Everyone knows what it's like to be in love. A great feeling! But how does it feel when someone is crazy about you but you don't feel anything for them? A stupid situation that can quickly become exhausting. So what can you do to put an end to this without being harsh and insensitive?
They will with Declarations of love showered over and have no more quiet minute? This is only nice if you also have feelings for your admirer. However, if someone is in love with you who you have absolutely no feelings for, the situation can get out of hand.
What to do when you don't reciprocate the feelings
It is usually harmless if someone raves about you and confuses it with being in love. You might receive love letters, unwanted Facebook messages, or possibly the odd odd phone call or two.
- If you feel absolutely nothing for the person who is trying to win you over, then you should make them understand. Surely you know the saying: Better to end with horror than horror without end. In this case it is true.
- If you do not tell your admirer that she (he) has no chance with you, then it could be that you will be showered with tokens of love for a long time to come. Experience has shown that this becomes annoying very quickly and can lead to you feeling harassed and observed.
- Don't let it get that far. Find the conversation and say "plain text". Try to be sensitive so as not to upset the other person unnecessarily and possibly hurt them, but do not be too careful either. Whoever talks "around the bush" is often misunderstood.
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Those who are in love often only hear what they want
You have made it absolutely clear that you are not participating in one relationship are interested? However, the desired effect does not materialize and you are still being "bombarded" with declarations of love?
- Unfortunately that can happen. While you were more sensitive to your conversation, the other person only heard what they wanted to hear. You may have said that now is not the time to be in a relationship. The person who is their only "true crush" for you love"feels, is not only waiting for the right moment, she is also convinced that this moment will come.
- It is possible that she (or he) asked in the course of the conversation whether you really dislike her (him) at all. Perhaps you said, "Yes, of course I like you, just in a different way". It will be clear to everyone what you meant by that. However, anyone who is "immortally" in love and full of hope will only be happy that you like them. After all, at some point it could turn into love.
- If your words have been misinterpreted, which is not your fault, then the person who is in love with you will do everything possible to show you that they are right for you. She will make sure that you don't forget her and you with surprises and "pamper" friendliness. At this point you cannot avoid using clear and harsh words.
- Have another conversation and do not allow yourself to be carried away into ambiguous statements or niceties. They shouldn't be mean or offensive. Make sure that the conversation doesn't drag on unnecessarily. Just say clearly that you are not interested and you will not be interested in the future, no matter what.
- Be consistent and stay tough no matter what. Don't get involved, avoid any contact if possible - if she (s) tries to contact you, then "block" you.
- Do not under any circumstances take small gifts or gifts on, that would only encourage your "pursuer" and unnecessarily prolong the "haunt".
Even if the person opposite should break out in tears, you must not be soft under any circumstances. This is the only way to put an end to the hustle and bustle. Of course, all of this only applies if the case is harmless. If the extent of the expressions of love exceeds a normal level (and becomes frightening), then please - for your safety - please contact the police.
