Forever alone?

There can be a variety of reasons why you are alone. Some people have never had a partnership, others have their partner through one separation or lost by death.

When your relationship has failed

• Realize that relationship failure is normal. You and your ex-partner were not meant for each other - otherwise the complications, that is, the separation, would not have occurred. Many people don't dare to part for fear of being alone forever. This is a big mistake. Marriages can also break up - regardless of whether you have been married recently or for years. Don't force yourself to stay in an unhappy marriage - it won't help you or your spouse. Frustration can quickly turn into trouble and your marriage will be anything but harmonious.

• Do not look for the faults in yourself or in your former partner. The two of you were not compatible and so you had to let each other go. This is the only way you have the chance to let someone new into your life who really suits you.

• Of course you can be sad or angry and withdraw for a certain period of time, but that should be kept within limits. If it helps, write down your feelings and thoughts or share them with your friends. This can help with coping with grief or anger. Don't feel sorry for yourself. Cheer up - life goes on and takes place outside. You won't be alone forever.

When you've lost a loved one

• Some people had found their perfect partner, but lost through a tragic event or natural death. It is important here that you do not suppress the grief, but allow it. This is the only way to deal with the traumatic event.


Relationship at the end - this is how you deal correctly with the new solitude

Is your relationship over? Unfortunately, it happens that one drifts apart. It ...

• But everyone processes grief differently: some people seek contact with friends and family, others withdraw and need time for themselves. No matter what type you are, allow yourself the mourning phase. However, if you feel that the grief cannot overcome you, it is advisable to seek professional help. Here you have the opportunity to talk openly about your feelings, your fears, your grief and to look for possible solutions. Through the therapy you create a safe space of security in which you can live out your feelings.

• It is important that you manage to visualize your partner in all of his inner and outer beauty. Letting go also plays a crucial role in helping you move on again in life. Holding on to the person convulsively will not help you.

By no means alone forever - how to get started again

• Have you more or less closed with your ex-partner? After your partner dies, can you look ahead again and are you ready to let a new person into your life? Then think about what you want from a future partner. Only when you know what to expect from a person will you meet them.

• Take it slow. Don't be afraid to be alone forever. Do not rush to find a new partner. Go out, have fun - this is how you will meet new people. Maybe the next and right partner is already there. A visual change helps some people. Treat yourself to new clothes or a new hairstyle.

• Think for yourself if something is in your former relationship came up short. Have you stopped practicing certain hobbies? Or have you always wanted to try a certain sport? So you now have the chance to start a new chapter in your life with this hobby. Having a hobby also increases the likelihood that you will meet new interesting people.

If you've never had a real relationship before

• Have you never had a relationship? If you are unhappy about this, consider what the problem might be. Are you too demanding and no one can please you? Or do you quickly feel constricted? Here it is recommended that you try out the loose data. When you get to know someone nice, make an appointment with them for a coffee or a leisurely stroll. You get to know new people through new hobbies, traveling or on the street. Take off your blinkers and be open to new ideas. It's up to you.

• Even if you've never had a really serious relationship, don't be desperate. It is possible that the right person was simply not there yet. Your family or friends may portray you as picky. But you shouldn't care, because obviously you have your own ideas. And only then do you want to get involved in a relationship.

• What you can already do, however, is to consider what requirements you are placing on your future partner. Make a list of properties, appearance, etc. Your personal dream man. Then evaluate to what extent these properties are realistic. If you come to the conclusion that these ideas are a bit utopian, you have already found out the cause of your "problem". In this case, you should actually loosen up a little and not give everyone the cold shoulder right away. In most cases it is not the love at first glance, sometimes you have to look a second time.

The important thing is that you don't drown in self-pity in any of these cases. Get in touch with other people and you will not regret it. Go new ways - these may even lead you to a new loved one.