What to ask in the chat?

Half the conversation is to ask

The biggest problem in the beginning is getting started with a conversation. How you do this depends very much on the specific chat provider and the reasons why you want to start a conversation. There are a few options:

• Is there a profile of your chat partner? Study it at your leisure. Look for hangers for a conversation. But limit yourself to things that you actually write or write about. can say. So z. B: "I just read that you dance Zumba. Have you been doing this for a while? "
• If there is a public chat with several participants, you can also first follow what your potential chat partner is writing. Often it results from what he / she is doing or planning to do. If it says "I'll have something to eat soon" would be a great question to start with: "What do you have nice to eat?"
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• If absolutely no hook can be found, you can also consider what made you want to chat at the moment. Z. B. "Well, are you just relaxing a little in front of the PC?"
• Don't start a conversation with "Hi, how are you" or "Hello". Formulate a question, wish you a "sunny afternoon" or use phrases other than "hi" and "hello", e.g. B. "Juuuhuuu xxx" or "* knock * someone there?"


Topics of conversation in the chat - this is how a relaxed conversation succeeds

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You should keep this in mind when getting started

• Give the other person enough time to answer. As a rule of thumb, you should wait 5 minutes to see if you get an answer.
• If the other person replies, he / she is interested in writing to you. Otherwise you would not have received an answer. So you can start a conversation in a relaxed and uninhibited way.
• In the beginning, choose topics that are interesting for both of you. It always makes sense to write about yourself - what you have planned today, what you will do next, what you are looking forward to. But also ask your counterpart about this. Show interest. It is best if you close most of your posts with a question. That keeps the conversation going.
• When writing, don't forget one thing: if you don't have a webcam running, you can't tell whether you are writing with a woman or a man, a child or a pensioner. You have to trust that the person you are talking to has given correct information about himself. In case of doubt, however, you should not rely on it!
• There is a study by the University of Chicago that found more than 50% of the communication in the Internet is understood differently by the recipient than the sender meant it. Despite smilies and expressions of feeling like "Lol" or "omg". So don't necessarily assume that what you're writing will be understood right away. And note that there are things that shouldn't be discussed in chat for precisely these reasons.

The biggest sins in chat

However, there are also a few things that you will find in the Chat should never ask:

• "Do you want to chat?" is a very pointless question. Would your counterpart be there otherwise?
• "What are you looking for here?" - this is tantamount to the question of a person's most secret wishes, since not everyone wants to reveal what their deeper motives are.
• You shouldn't force anything that has a sexual relationship - that results, you don't need to ask about it.
• Things that you would never ask a person in real life are of course also taboo in chat. That would only cause you to create the defensive attitude that you would also encounter in real life.

And now get to the keys. And please always remember: At the other end of the line there is also a person sitting in front of a monitor. You should never forget that.