He does not talk with me anymore
If he withdraws in silence and stops talking to you, it can be quite stressful. In order to improve communication in a relationship, however, it is often necessary that the part who is "affected" by the behavior of the other also critically examines his or her communication style.
According to a simple rule, you can only change your own behavior and work on your own behavior - you cannot force another person to behave differently. If your partner no longer talks to you, you should therefore not just put yourself in the "victim role" and ask him to change his behavior, if you please.
When the partner stops talking
- In general, in a partnership it is more women who often have a greater need to speak. As a partner, you may not be able to cope with it easily if your partner withdraws in silence instead of dealing with you.
- In order to change the mutual communication behavior, however, it can also be done in In this case, it can be very useful if you take a critical look at your own communication behavior to take.
- For example, what would you answer if a third person asked you the provocative question: "How do you actually get your partner to stop talking to you?"
- Such a question draws attention to one's own behavior and to what parts of it may lead the other to his behavior in the first place.
- For example, it could be that your partner would rather remain silent than be constantly showered with accusations in a discussion.
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Change your own communication style
- Once you have critically examined your own communication style in the past and discovered that it is in it there are definitely parts that can "motivate" your partner to remain silent, you have already recognized an important solution step to do so change.
- Just change your own communication style first - maybe your partner is just surprised that you are now talking to him in a completely different way. Then slow down in your desire to expect concessions from the other side or to be able to have an open conversation straight away.
- Rather, it can be more long-term success if you let your partner take the step out of the silence himself. Maybe he needs a while before he really dares.
Silence can be in one relationship paralyzing and ultimately destructive. However, it is usually not helpful to only take the role of victim towards the silent and hope for change on his side.
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