Why don't I get a boyfriend?
If you longingly want a boyfriend, but have not been very successful in implementing it, you should analyze your previous approach. Not getting a boyfriend won't necessarily be because you're not attractive enough.
If you have been looking for a steady partner for a long time, but have not been successful so far or have been turned away, it is unlikely that this will necessarily boost your self-esteem to have. However, you don't have to give up hope for a long time.
If you haven't got a boyfriend yet
- In no case should you start to convince yourself that you "are" something specific and that the reason is that you have not yet made a boyfriend. So don't tell yourself that you are ugly, unattractive, or not at all lovable.
- Instead of such fixed ascriptions of being, you should rather reflect on the level of behavior - because you can change your behavior.
- So ask yourself what you have been doing so far to get a friend. Perhaps you have only waited until now for the friend to finally come to you, but you have not been very active in "joining" a potential friend yourself. If your potential partner does the same thing, you will probably never get together.
- If you have already done something - for example, searched on the Internet in dating sites - you should consider how you can change your approach so that it leads to success.
You are in love but are annoyed that your boyfriend will see you in the presence of others ...
Change your own approach
- Online dating sites in particular now offer the opportunity to get to know people who you would not have met in any other way. However, you will possibly be too selective when making your selection if you have solid ideas about what your dream partner should be like.
- So broaden your perspective - because if you met your dream partner on the street, you probably wouldn't care whether he was six feet or five feet tall.
- So ask yourself which part of your partner search approach may have prevented success so far. Maybe it was too narrow a search profile or it was the too critical eyes at the first encounter.
- Finally, you should turn the question why you don't get a boyfriend into why you still (!) have no boyfriend - otherwise, in the worst case scenario, you will have a barrier in your head that will also prevent success can.
When looking for a partner, you shouldn't throw the gun in the towel too quickly. Because sometimes luck is also a part of finally finding the right person.
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