I want a relationship, he doesn't
It's sad when you want a relationship and he doesn't. Unfortunately, there is no clear answer to the question of what to do when one partner wants a relationship but the other doesn't.
Considerations, if you want a relationship, he doesn't
There is one thing you need to be clear about if it isn't relationship want, but you do, you have a big problem, because one thing is certain:
- You can't re-educate him that he suddenly wants a relationship. If he absolutely and fundamentally does not want to have a relationship, then you need to consider how important it is to you.
- Do not rape your own feelings. Don't get into a casual relationship with the daring hope that one day he might want a relationship. Ask yourself, "What do I really want? Which is more important to me: relationship or him? "Only when you are sure that you want him, even if he isn't Want to have a relationship, let yourself into a casual relationship, if not, then break up rather. It will be very painful for you to live with unfulfilled hope.
It is often the case that he does not want a relationship at the moment, but does not rule it out in principle. In that case, you should clarify the problem.
Necessary discussions with those who are not in a relationship
Men hate conversations like this, so be careful. Don't blame:
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- Explain to him that you do not envision not having a relationship with him in the long term. Demand sincerity. Clarify whether he generally does not want to or just not at the moment.
- If he just doesn't want to be in the moment, ask if it has anything to do with you because he doesn't think you are the right person to be in a relationship with. If he says that, you can assume that he will keep looking and maybe suddenly meet another woman with whom he is having the relationship that he dislikes with you. Ask yourself, "Do I want this? Can I take it? "
- Don't torture yourself or him about why he doesn't want a relationship. This is of no use and it hurts you too. So leave it. Chances are he's not the one for you.
- Think about what you want. Ask yourself, "Do I just want to be an occasional pastime for him?" Obviously, he feels differently for you than you do for him. Don't play him the dream woman he could want. If he doesn't love you for who you are and doesn't want to enter into a relationship with you, then draw the consequences.
It's hard to come to terms with the fact that there is no future together, but don't be afraid to face the consequences. Later, after years of hope, it only gets harder. Neither that love you can force another relationship.
