How do I address you?

Important when addressing them in the subway

The question of how you address someone is always difficult to answer, and there are a few special features in the subway.

• Typically, you only have a limited amount of time on the subway and most of the time you don't know how much time you have before she has to get off. So you need to get into the conversation quickly and you only have one try.
• People often feel threatened on the subway, especially at night, and when there are hardly any people on the subway it is always tricky. They must not appear intrusive or threatening. Under no circumstances should you get on her skin. Sit across from her, diagonally across from her, or stand still. Only sit next to her when there is no other space. Anything else could be considered intrusive.

Now all that matters is the right words. The how, namely with a certain distance, should be clarified.

The best way to address someone

Don't make the common mistake of staring at the lady while thinking, "How Am I just talking to her? "and then bursting out with a stupid joke or a crude saying.

• If you see the lady regularly because you ride the same train with her every day, you can take your time. Just bump into them very carefully when getting in or out and apologize. The next day you pay attention and say: "Today I was more careful, yesterday I was in my thoughts because ..." Don't say too much, but a little story from work, parents or friends might fit, for example because you are a present for the sister Looking for. Ask if she can help you with this.
• It is more difficult if you do not know whether you will ever see the lady again because you just happen to be in the same path as her. Of course, you can also jostle here and talk about your thoughts.
• Or, if it is true, you can say that you are new to town and would like to know where to go in the evening and ask them to show you around.
• It is certainly very effective if you accidentally pour your purchases in their vicinity and are a little amused by your own clumsiness. If she helps you, you're sure to start a conversation. In a pinch, drop your key.
• Maybe you are lucky and the lady has a lot of luggage with her. Ask if you can help her. You always start talking about luggage.
• You can also include a dog she has with you or place your own dog near the lady. Maybe she reacts or you ask if he's bothering you.
• If time is running out because you have to get out, consider staying a little longer. Just tell her: "Now I actually missed the stop. Do you know how I now to... Come on? ”Tell her that you liked to talk to her and that was the only reason you missed the stop. Ask if you can't just chat longer.
• If she needs to get off, you get off with her and say that you accidentally got off too early. Ask if she knows when the next train is coming. Here, too, it is useful to point out the nice conversation and ask for further discussions.

All of this is a little more difficult than saying something about "beautiful eyes", but certainly more impressive. Asking for a conversation is always a good and neutral means of getting to know someone better and overcoming the hurdle "How do I speak to you?" is easy to overcome with the mentioned tricks.