Married and in love with someone else

Sometimes it means making clear decisions in life, even if they are associated with disappointment or internal pain. You shouldn't maintain a love triangle for too long, because in the end it won't do anyone any good.

Married and trapped in a secret triangle

• There may well be people who can love two others at the same time - but this can be problematic for you if not all parties involved are aware of such a constellation and expressly consent to it are.
• Because such a "secret triangle" means a permanent breach of trust in the core area of ​​one Partnership that is a psychological burden for you and a great disappointment for your spouse can be. And even the third party, who may have further hopes, will find himself in a very unfulfilled situation if he never knows whether his love has a future at all.
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• If you are married and still fall in love with someone else, this can also be a sign that something is wrong or missing in your marriage. Perhaps you no longer feel loved, or you no longer love your partner yourself - or you are not even sure exactly.
• You should therefore try to get to the bottom of your feelings and honestly ask yourself what the other has what your spouse does not have and what you are looking for in the other - and apparently found to have.


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When the other is not in love

• Of course, if you fall in love with someone else as a married partner, that doesn't mean that the other person has fallen in love with you too. You cannot force love and you should not jeopardize your partnership if the third party does not reciprocate your feelings at all.
• If you can talk openly with the third party, you should calmly tell them about your feelings for them. Only then can you finally know whether they are not mutual. Perhaps the third person never dared to take the first step because he didn't want to endanger your marriage.
• However, if your feelings are not reciprocated, you can use the situation as an opportunity to have an honest conversation with your spouse.
• You should clarify together whether mutual love is still the basis of yours relationship is or whether basic needs in the partnership are not being met. Perhaps, for example, because of the sheer routine of the relationship, you no longer have the feeling that you are noticed and desired by your partner. At best, such a conversation can be one New beginning represent in a longstanding relationship.
• However, if you find that your marriage is basically just a marriage certificate and you don't really have much to say to each other, then you should draw an honest line.
• For children, the breakup of the parenting relationship can be a dire situation. However, if there is only an argument at home, it is also a difficult situation to endure. Therefore, in the interests of your children, do not unnecessarily prolong this by not making a decision.

A decision to be married or in love

• If you are married and fell in love with someone else who also fell in love with you, then at some point you will have to make a decision about either. The longer you postpone this decision, the more difficult it can become as you get more and more used to the "triangle situation".
• Remember, however, that the longer the relationship lasts, the more painful it can be for your spouse to find out. He'll likely feel betrayed anyway, but whether this is half a year or five years can make a big difference.
• Before making a decision for one or the other, you should first of all be clear about whether the other is something just replaces what you miss in your marriage or whether you love him as a whole - and share your life with him want.