Friend just gambles
It's really annoying when your boyfriend prefers to gamble instead of hanging out with you. If you don't feel like participating, talk to him. If that doesn't work, only consistent behavior will help.
It sucks when the friend spends a lot of time playing computer games
If your boyfriend is gambling all the time, it doesn't just be annoying, it really turns into a relationship killer. Because even if PC and video games are now a way to switch off, especially, but not only, very popular with men it can be very stressful for the partner if the friend prefers to stare at the screen instead of at her beautiful one Eyes. Especially very young, unsportsmanlike boys and men who have been single for a long time seem to like to gamble. The question is what is normal. And not only that: you have to ask yourself how much you can tolerate.
- Some women are so against gambling that they have made a rule for themselves not to let a man into the house to gamble. That may be extreme, but it is more than understandable. A woman wants attention and usually prefers a reading, cooking or filming evening to an evening ripped off in front of the computer.
- If your tolerance level is higher, give him a time you can live with, for example an hour a day, by simply doing your thing, for example taking a bath, talking to a friend on the phone, going for a walk and so on.
Addiction - what you can do when he's just gambling
It gets dramatic when he moves them or negotiates more and more time to gamble. Then there can also be a gambling addiction behind it, which he can no longer get out of on his own.
- Talk to him openly if you are annoyed. Try alternative leisure time suggestions, preferably outside the home. Get in the nature, go hiking and show him how much more interesting and exciting real life is.
- If it is an addiction, then your friend should go to a counseling center. There are general advice centers from Caritas and the Red Cross that have addiction counselors on site and are free of charge. but also a psychosocial counseling and treatment center (PBB), which is specially tailored to computer and gambling addicts are.
- The treatment options are outpatient and inpatient, depending on the severity and self-discipline. However, this only works if your friend is understanding and really wants therapy and a differently designed life. You can't force him.
Wondering how to pamper your friend should you consider him and his ...
If he shows himself unreasonable and does not want to change and also does not want to start therapy, then only that helps in case of doubt separation. You are sure to find someone to focus on.
