VIDEO: Strecker and Füger in the relationship

Strecker and Füger - a definition

• In the TV series mentioned, Marshall is a classic "spreader". Marshall is a lawyer who is constantly stretching himself above his level of action by doing things, for example does not actually concern him at all, and it is precisely this quality that characterizes you "Strecker".
• The opposite of a "Strecker" is a "Füger". In the series, this is embodied by Lily. A "Füger" can be defined as follows: A "Füger" is someone who gets involved with a "Strecker" by inserting himself.
• So Marshall was lucky that Lily blended in with everything. As long as the partner does this willingly, this is not a problem for this relationship. However, it is also often the case in a partnership that opposites attract.
• But this is precisely where the appeal for the producers of a TV series lies. The two can also live together in everyday life if you follow certain rules.

Strecker and Füger in a relationship

• Of course, the temptation is great because of the constant relationship
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  Conflicts cancel. This applies to both the "Strecker" and the "Füger". But it is precisely in these conflicts that there is also potential for growth for both sides.


Living openness in a partnership - communication tips

Openness and honesty in communication are important for a partnership. …

• Unfortunately, people often have the idea that everything has to be harmonious in a relationship. Most of the time, however, the reality is different.
• Realize that if you stick to certain rules, arguments are not bad in and of themselves. So develop rules of dispute with your "Strecker" or "Füger" that you adhere to within a conflict.
• Arguing outside of certain rules can be very exhausting. Inside, it can be fun and enrich your relationship.
• Often not all topics need to be discussed. If you find that a certain topic keeps getting into an argument, you can also come to an agreement with your partner that you will not agree at that point. The Americans need the phrase "let us agree to dissagree" for this.
• Of course, this is not the optimal solution, but it is better than thinking about the same topics over and over again.

Rules of dispute are therefore a possibility that the relationship between a "Strecker" and a "Füger" can succeed despite differences.