Train social behavior in kindergarten
Yes, the thing with social behavior in kindergarten is not always that simple. In doing so, nature or the natural development of the child dictates exactly how to do it. But the children grow up in a very turbulent world. Kindergarten groups are often occupied by 15 to 30 children. Every single one has a world in itself. So worlds collide. And now parents and kindergarten teachers claim that the children should learn their own needs to put aside, to be considerate of others, to recognize the needs of the other and to be ready to share be. So how is that supposed to work in kindergarten?
Social behavior in kindergarten depends on many factors
- Everyone is an "egoist" because "ego" means "I" and this "I" must first survive. At a certain point in time, the "ego" learns to recognize the "you". Much later does the "ego" begin to understand the "you" as an independent egoist whom one could or could approach. should be respectful.
- This short formula includes the social development of the child up to and basically extends to old age. There is a guideline as to when children "Social behavior" should have learned, but this development is very different.
- The claim that children would learn social behavior in kindergarten is very high. Every educator who takes on this claim, for whatever (ego) reasons, not only overwhelms himself, but also the children.
- Social behavior is subject to a development process that can be supported by positive cooperation between the child, the parents and the educator. Some educators despair of their ability to teach children social behavior, and some parents doubt the skills of the educators. Power struggles arise and the child notices the "anti-social" tensions. This means that every learning objective, no matter how beautifully formulated, is gone.
Recognize the child's natural developmental stages
To that Social behavior you need to be able to assess the emotional development of the child. To learn Therefore, to look at the first 12 months of a child's life as a mirror:
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- A newborn infant is dependent on a caregiver, his provider. While it only perceives itself, it learns up to the 2nd Month of life to recognize the face of the other person.
- Until the 3rd At the month of life, the baby reacts to its counterpart and makes contact with its "provider" through looks, gestures, facial expressions or sounds. These contact reactions differentiate up to the 4th, 5th Month of life.
- Around the 6th At the month of life, the baby learns to differentiate between angry and happy facial expressions and voices.
- In the 8th Month of life, when the emotional bond with the caregiver becomes stronger, character traits can already assert themselves. D. H. some children "stranger", others accept other people more easily.
- The 9th Month makes it clear what intensification of affect is, because the baby orients itself in unfamiliar situations by the facial expressions of the person he trusts.
- For the 10th Every month the baby recognizes which of his behaviors people are reacting to and can also show his affection quite clearly.
- One month later it protests if an object is taken away from it and at 12 months it mimicks the behavior of others, such as B. clapping or waving afterwards.
- By the time they are around 18 months old they have learned to participate in the feelings of others or to react defiantly, and by the time they are two years old they become independent of their caregiver.
Transfer early development processes to later development phases
"Social behavior" already develops in infancy and differentiates with the second, third and every subsequent year. If you look closely at the development, you can see that the learning phases of the first year of life are basically repeated:
- Small children experience themselves as "their own focus" when playing with others. Only later does the child perceive the other. Depending on the character, it tends to play dominant, reserved or friendly.
- Now the child discovers the "other" and imitates things from them. It begins to react to its counterpart and defends its "possessions".
- Only then do children begin to become more independent of their own "ego" and to approach their counterparts.
Give children the chance to develop
Social behavior in kindergarten can be supported with many popular games. Many people know educators Games and actions that promote and strengthen the sense of community. However, they only make sense if the child corresponds emotionally to the level of development. If a child is "behaving unsocially", check which developmental steps they have not yet gone through.
- A child who has always been "deported" in front of the television may not have yet learned to meet a "counterpart". In such a case, plan games or activities that have a neutral side or side effect. Allow each other, e.g. B. "Everyone paints a beautiful picture and we hang all the pictures together."
- If you find that a child is aggressive or depressed towards others, consider the extent to which the child has never been able to satisfy his or her own needs. B. keep your own car, spend your own time with parents, etc. Give your time to this child. Make things with the children in the group that each individual can keep.
- If a child reacts in an unusually aggressive way, investigate the extent to which the child was promoted as a "limitless" center. Sensitizing "my-your-games", memory games and activities such as "experiencing nature" could be useful in teaching the child to respectfully open the door to the "you" border.
