He wants to meet with me
You may have only met each other briefly, exchanged e-mails or made a phone call - and now he wants to meet you. Your heart will certainly beat faster, and you may also be wondering whether you want such a meeting at all.
Before a first meeting for two, everyone is nervous, regardless of whether they are teenagers or older. But such a meeting does not have to be tense and exhausting, but sometimes develops into the beginning of a wonderful one relationship.
If he wants to deepen the contact
- Maybe you've been waiting for him to finally meet you. Then it will be rather easy for you to agree to a first meeting. Nevertheless, think about whether you like the suggested meeting point or whether you would prefer to meet somewhere else.
- For example, you shouldn't necessarily meet at his home if you meet in person for the first time. A less binding place will make the meeting more relaxed and free from excessive expectations.
- If he wants to deepen the contact and meet you, but you are not interested in it at all, then you'd better say a polite but unmistakable rejection rather than excuse yourself save. Do not pretend that you are short of time at the moment or that you cannot go on the proposed date of all times.
- It is better to say clearly and in a friendly manner that you are simply not interested in a meeting. Otherwise you run the risk of getting an unwanted "admirer" who will not give up on meeting you. After all, he might think that you just don't have time right now, but you will definitely have some time ...
Ask yourself what you can do on the first date and have no idea ...
Preparations for the first meeting
- If you've accepted a meeting suggestion, then at some point you may find yourself standing in front of your closet wondering what to wear.
- But don't worry too much about what he might like and how each piece of clothing will look - think about what clothes you are comfortable in. If you dress differently for the first meeting because you think you should somehow look particularly effective, then you will have to do the same at all subsequent meetings - is that really what you want?
- It becomes more relaxed if you stay natural and just go to the meeting as if you already know each other. After all, he wants to get to know you as a person and not some fictional character ...
- You may also go to the first meeting more relaxed if you set a time limit for yourself or if the worst comes to the worst. think about how to get out of the number again if it should be dead boring...
- For example, you could ask a good and knowledgeable friend to call you at a specific time. When you find yourself in the middle of an interesting and exciting conversation, just don't answer the phone. If not, use the call to say goodbye on urgent matters ...
Before the first meeting, your excitement may increase day by day - comfort yourself so that he may feel the same way and above all do not have too high expectations of the first one To meet. If you meet each other quite naturally, you can better assess whether they might even be a good match.
