Meeting with the ex

Plan to meet your ex-boyfriend

Meeting your ex is not always pleasant, but it is often necessary.

• It is therefore all the more important that you think carefully beforehand how the meeting should go. In this way, you are already prepared for the situation that comes your way and can deal with it better in reality.
• Make a list of which topics you would like to work on and which personal things you would like to get back from your ex. It is best to practice the conversation at home in front of the mirror or with a friend, so that you can appear particularly confident.
• You should also be sure that the meeting is necessary. Such a meeting with the ex-boyfriend stirs up many feelings and is therefore rather unpleasant. Therefore, when a meeting is not needed, leave it alone.

This is how the conversation with the ex works

• Be sure to meet the ex-boyfriend in a neutral place. So you have some distance from yours relationship and cannot fall back into old waters. For example, a quiet café that you haven't been to before is a suitable place.


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• Determine beforehand how long the meeting should last. That way, you won't be tempted to chat again like you would in the relationship for ages.
• At the beginning, hand over all the things that you still have from your ex and vice versa. Avoid accusations and insults and do not ask each other about new partners.
• You should definitely speak in I-messages instead of using you-messages. This will make it less easy for you to hurt your ex and make it easier for him to talk to you. Nevertheless, limit yourself to the bare minimum and end the meeting as soon as possible, albeit politely.