How do I save my marriage?
Constant quarrels about apparently trivial occasions or complete incomprehension about the behavior of the partner, who actually once completely was different - by no means every marriage lasts a lifetime and some partnerships can become a real burden for everyone involved to develop. Often times, if you want to save your marriage, both sides have to go to great lengths and step beyond their own shadow.
If your marriage seems to be about to end, but you are still fighting for the partnership and want to save it, then you should leave no stone unturned.
Trying to save a marriage
Perhaps you have long since realized that you did not get any further in joint conversations - if they still took place at all.
- It can then be particularly helpful to seek outside support. In couples therapy or counseling, you can analyze your communication and conflict patterns and find a new basis for conversation.
- Even the presence and moderation of a conversation by a neutral third party can give you the security that not one of you will be "interrupted" again during the conversation.
- In order to communicate something to each other without getting caught up in mutual accusations, you could also arrange a "discussion hour" at home.
- During this lesson, which takes place every week at a fixed appointment, everyone receives two speaking units of 15 minutes each. While one is talking, the other listens without commenting on what has been heard in any way - not even through gestures or facial expressions.
- Of course, this is not about bringing accusations to your partner undisturbed throw, but about it, without interruption from your own feelings and your own experience of the partnership speak.
"The divorce is today!" - The divorce date in court means - in particular ...
Temporary separation
- One separation Temporary work can be helpful when living together becomes a burden. Even during this time, however, you should make regular appointments so as not to lose yourself sooner or later.
- You should also think about what you want to achieve through the temporary separation in order to save your marriage. So don't just think about which state you want to get away from, but also which state you want to move towards.
- If both of you can develop a new vision for your partnership - even with the help of a third party - you have come a big step forward.
Marital disputes can become a major burden. In order to save the marriage, it may also be necessary to say goodbye to illusions about the partner.