Leave the boyfriend?
Are you considering leaving your boyfriend? You should think carefully about this, because most of the time you don't appreciate something until you've lost it.
Create a list of pros and cons for the separation
Before making the decision to leave your boyfriend, make a list of pros and cons, which should include the following facts:
- Which qualities do you appreciate in your boyfriend and which ones do you dislike at all?
- What has your boyfriend done for you so far and when (in what situation and why) did your boyfriend let you down?
- You should also make a note on this list of why you are considering leaving your boyfriend.
- Also think about the qualities that you would like to have in a partner and which you do not like at all. Put these on the list as well and note whether this applies to your friend.
- Now you could go straight to the point on which side there are more points and if there are more pro-points they do not separate and if there is an increased number of contra-points they do.
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Why you want to leave the friend
As an alternative to the above option of making a decision whether or not to leave your friend, you could also do the following:
- Take your time to think about why you and your friend are doing the relationship and why this relationship has worked so far.
- At the same time, you need to consider why you want to break up. Is there just a misunderstanding or have you been bothering with this thought for a long time?
- Think about whether you couldn't live with your friend's faults because the positives outweigh the bads.
- Don't forget that you too have faults. There should be compelling reasons to break up with your friend. Of course, you can decide for yourself what a valid reason is.
- Under no circumstances should you part with your boyfriend just because you don't like his clothes or his job.
- In detail, this means that you shouldn't let superficial reasons flow into your decision.
- Likewise, you should never make a spontaneous decision because you are mad at your friend at the moment. Imagine in your mind what it would be like to be apart. Would you then mourn or be happy? The decision should be made accordingly.
