"He's not doing me any good"

Sometimes it is not enough just to love one another. However, in some relationships arguments often occur and Conflicts on. Small arguments are normal, but when they pile up you will find that your partner is not doing you any good.

Discussing wishes is good

Many couples have never really spoken about their ideas and wishes; they don't actually know each other well enough to plan a future together, but rather live from one moment to the next. Different views can quickly collide, which is not good for either of them.

• That is why you should think about how you want to shape your future life. What do you want to achieve professionally? Would you like to live with your partner or do you prefer to live alone? Do you want (more) children? What things are still particularly important to you for your future, what is not so important to you and what can you possibly do without?
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• When you have answered these questions for yourself, you should consider whether your ideas can be implemented with your partner or your partnership rather prevents you from implementing your wishes and your friend prevents little of what you hope for for you does. Find a conversation with your partner and ask him about his ideas or after what is good for him. You should take your time for this so as not to forget important aspects.
• After this discussion - sometimes several clarifying discussions are useful - you can get a better picture of yours relationship do. You may find that you and your partner are not a good match, that you are not doing each other well, and that it would be better to break up. But you may also notice that you are not all that different and that small things always lead to arguments.


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So that your love is not lost

• If you see enough similarities for your future life planning, then it can make sense to continue the relationship. In order to avoid disputes and to be able to easily agree on slightly different views in everyday life, it makes sense to plan small discussions from time to time. For example, you can plan to discuss once a week or every 14 days about what is good for you, what you liked and what you were not satisfied with.
• It is also important not to use generalizations or accusations. So don't just talk about what your partner is doing, but also talk about the impression his behavior has made on you. Instead of “You're always late”, you can say something that your friend's lateness makes you feel set back or not taken seriously.
• In addition, it is good for many couples to have specific time for themselves. Do something with friends more often, for example, or take an evening or longer break, so to speak. Because through constant contact with each other, partners often lose the longing for the other. The girlfriend is then taken for granted and the feeling of being in love quickly gives way to routine, so that arguments also arise. The partners are then, to a certain extent, sometimes annoyed with each other.

 So if you notice that your partner is not doing you good, it is important to find out for yourself whether fundamentally different ideas about life play a role here or those love Something just got lost in everyday life. If there are opposing ideas about the future, there is one separation better, if there are only small differences, it can help to take more time for yourself.