Get closer to the buddy
Even in friendships it can happen that you fall in love with each other and then try to get closer. But you may shy away from flirting with your buddy so as not to endanger the friendship. How can we succeed in finding more together?
If you've fallen in love with your buddy, then this is an important foundation stone for one relationship already laid, because you surely know your friend very well and know about their interests and ideas. Therefore, you can easily assess whether he would suit you as a partner.
Get closer to each other slowly
- If you are friends with your buddy then there are certainly some things you can do together. You will probably also meet regularly. Here it can be useful to give these meetings a slightly romantic touch.
- For example, walks, a picnic or watching TV together are suitable. These are moments in which you are alone, in which you can freely shape the situation and which usually allow casual interaction with one another.
- You can then get closer to your buddy very slowly, for example by placing your hand on his shoulder more often or by hugging him a few seconds longer than usual when you say goodbye. In front of the television you can sit a little closer to the other person than you normally do, or you can "accidentally" touch them a little more often.
- With these gestures you can bring about a cautious approach, in which you do not immediately become "direct", but rather "Feel your way around" very carefully and see whether he reciprocates the long hug or the frequent "accidental" touch will.
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Confess your mate's feelings
- Perhaps the tentative advances are enough to indirectly convey your feelings to your buddy. Sometimes this does not work, however, and perhaps you also want to be certain whether he feels the same way about you.
- What matters here is what you feel more comfortable with. Do you prefer to tell other people things personally, in a conversation or by e-mail? Both have advantages and disadvantages; During a conversation, you can see your buddy react directly, get direct feedback, but you may also feel inhibited about telling him that you want to get closer to him.
- If you write an e-mail or a letter instead, then you can calmly think about how you want to phrase your words and take as much time as you need to. But there is no direct reaction to this, you may have to wait some time for an answer and you are in a sense "on hot coals".
- In any case, it is best to start a little more indirectly and to express your feelings, for example by telling him that you like him very much and not only appreciate him as a friend.
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