When someone scolds all the time
Someone who is always grumbling and grumbling about everything possible and impossible is sometimes difficult to bear. In order to cope better with such behavior, it is especially important not to be infected or challenged by it.
A certain communication behavior can easily develop into a vicious circle: someone who scolds a lot provokes Perhaps behavior on the other side that someone is just as wary of or constantly believes to justify have to. The best way to break out of such a vicious circle is to break through the ingrained "stimulus-response scheme".
Leaving someone unresponsive
If you keep scolding and always generate the desired reaction on the other hand, you won't stop anytime soon. It can therefore be a first step not to react or to react to grumbling and ranting at all. not to go into that at all.
However, this is often easier said than done, especially when it comes to that communication going in a very close relationship. The first "help for self-help" can then consist in imagining a transparent glass wall in front of the complainer - and thus protecting oneself from him at least in the imagination. At some point you may even be able to let such a wall literally "crash down" when you are about to complain - without anyone but you noticing.
- If a colleague grumbles at you often, it might help to actually imagine him as a grumbling goat. Especially if you feel intimidated by the cannonades of abuse - because as a goat, your colleague will certainly appear less threatening.
Nobody scolds all the time
- You should also make it clear to yourself that nobody really curses continuously. If this is your own deadlock, then you should be aware of the situations in which this has not been the case.
An argument with the neighbors can easily become a supposed life's work. …
- You shouldn't confront a grumbler with the question of why he is behaving this way - he will probably be able to give you numerous reasons and continue ranting straight away. It is better if you ask him what he is using this way for. Because then he has to at least tell you the meaning and purpose of his action - and that can be more difficult.
Negative people who have something to complain about in everything are not easy to bear. But at first you can only change your own behavior.
