Not to be taken seriously

Possible reasons why you are not being taken seriously

Sometimes you are just not taken seriously in certain situations. But maybe you have the feeling that the other person does not want to take you seriously on principle. The reasons for this can be varied.

• In professional life, besides technical knowledge, one's own appearance is high on the scale of skills that are necessary for success. A lacking one self-consciousness or the feeling of being technically inferior to your colleagues can make your demeanor appear insecure. That can be one reason why you are not taken seriously.
• In a partnership it happens that you and your partner have different ideas about certain things - be it about household chores or the upcoming purchase of a car together. You may not be taken seriously in discussions because the partner has his or her own sticky point of view and cannot or will not understand your views.
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• There are also many situations among friends, neighbors and acquaintances in which you may not feel that you are being taken seriously. An example of this is when the neighbors above you don't take it seriously because of loud trampling and music in your house sleep feel disturbed.

Make yourself heard with words and gestures

One of the most important tips for being taken seriously at work, in private life and in society is to be confident. As soon as you seem insecure, you convey weakness to your counterpart so that they do not take you seriously.

• Even if you are actually insecure in certain situations, show self-confidence! Speak in a clear, louder voice rather than in an intimidated, low tone.
• Those who speak expressively, clearly and with a firm voice sound more self-confident. This contributes to the fact that the other person perceives you as self-confident and takes you seriously. Don't forget to make eye contact, too.
• Use facial expressions and gestures in a targeted manner. Anyone who speaks confidently stands or sits in a determined posture. Straighten your upper body and underline your words with appropriate gestures. So you appear relaxed and relaxed and convey self-confidence to your counterpart.

Conscious choice of words to be taken seriously

If you are absolutely convinced of something, but the other person does not take your concern seriously, you should emphasize your concern with a conscious choice of words.

• Always speak from the first-person perspective instead of degrading your counterpart with you-assignments. The person you are talking to should be able to save face. In this way you don't give him any reason to hold personal grudges against you and possibly not want to take you seriously on principle.
• Instead of saying "You always come home way too late in the evening!" express your own emotions from a first-person perspective. Say to your partner, "I often feel alone in the evenings without you." In this way you avoid direct accusations that force your interlocutor to justify. Instead, you give an insight into your personal emotional life. Many people take this more seriously than you messages, where they feel cornered and the first impulse is self-defense.
• Especially in professional life, it can help to express yourself specifically and to clearly formulate wishes and goals. Work with I-messages here. If a project is pending, do not formulate vaguely, but unequivocally and thus secure the attention of colleagues. An example of this is: "I want x and y to be done by colleagues A and B by time x."